Better Parents Better Kids Weekly Newsletter Issue #20

Note From Tanis Nicole Wright

Welcome To The Better Parents Better Kids Newsletter #20

Hi, this is Tanis. Before we began our 5 Part Anxiety Series, I had given an update as to how my son Cameron was doing at school.

In that update I mentioned that my older son Joey was saying how children often feel like an outcast when they are being authentic.

For this newsletter I would like to continue with what Joey had to say about this topic and give an update as to how Cameron is doing now since they are both back in school.

As for Joey, he says he likes to be authentic because it feels right, but at school he is not as openly authentic as he is at home.

He is Amiable and expressive so he likes people and wants to fit in and get along so he is willing to bend a little but not to the point of being uncomfortable.

Now Cameron on the other hand is very authentic. He doesn't care if he gets along and is not so willing to bend because he really doesn't care as much what people think.

He wants to do what he wants when he wants so he doesn't fit in with the school system as well.

Unfortunately teachers are not aware of the different personalities or if they are they don't have the time to work with them all accordingly so even though Cameron CAN do all the work he is given the teacher thinks he either can't focus or can't do the work.

Instead of being supported in his natural authentic state and learning in a way that works for him he is labeled as "unable to focus on the task at hand" or "unable to do the work given" and so on.

So as a parent I feel it is my job to make sure he understands the different personalities, communication modes, temperaments and authenticities so he doesn't feel like there is something wrong with him just because he is not like some of the other students.

I know he is more intelligent than some of the kids that are labeled as good students or smart, and I tell him that and encourage him to explore, discover and learn in his own individual way.

One Last Note From Tanis

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Best Wishes To You and Your Family,

Tanis Nicole Wright

Director/Head Coach

The Better Parents, Better Kids Program

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