Better Parents Better Kids Weekly Newsletter Issue #18

Note From Tanis Nicole Wright

Welcome to the Better Parents, Better Kids Newsletter #18

Anxiety - Part 5 - Attachment

Today, we will be discussing our last "wall" of anxiety about Attachment as Part 5 of our 5 Part Series on Anxiety.

In simple terms- if you are not attached to anything - you will not have anxiety. In Dr. Robby's book “Divine Confidence” (http://www.lifequestpublishing.com ), he talks about how the key to a happy, prosperous and successful life is to "want what you want or desire, but not care whether you actually have it or not." This way you have a focus and goals but you are not attached to it.

In fact by being detached you are actually open to something that is even better as well as highest and best for you that you otherwise would have been blocking yourself from, if your were attached.

So how do explain to your child about the importance of being detached?

1. You can explain to your child that she will no longer feel fearful, anxious and uncomfortable if she decides would she would like, but not care if she will get it or not.

2. If she is old enough explain to her that in order to cut-down on the amount of anxiety she is feeling, she will need to change anything that she wants from a "want" into a "preference" instead.

3. Explain that if she is not attached to what she wants or prefers then there are better chances that she will not miss out on something even better.

For example your daughter is completely attached to having a double chocolate fudge ice cream cone, and in doing so she isn't interested in the triple chocolate fudge ice cream that is right under her nose - where as if she would prefer a double chocolate fudge ice cream she hasn't cut herself off by future thinking, anxiety and the potential disappointment of not having what she wants and she will notice as well as be totally up to choosing the triple chocolate fudge ice cream instead. (Of course you can substitute the example with something that's a lot healthier).

So that concludes our 5 Part Series on Anxiety.

We wish you Maureen and your daughter all the best, and we wish all our other Better Parents, Better Kids Newsletter Readers who have children with anxiety, or even anxiety themselves all the best.

If you have any further questions, please contact us at This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it and if you, as fellow Better Parents, Better Kids Newsletter Readers have any further suggestions about anxiety, send us an email as well.

Best Wishes,

Tanis Nicole Wright and Melody Chase

One Last Note From Tanis

Speaking of questions, if you have any parenting questions that you would like answered, send in your parenting questions to "Ask Tanis" at This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it and I will be happy to answer your questions as part of our "Ask Tanis" Q & A section here in our Newsletter.

Best Wishes To You and Your Family,

Tanis Nicole Wright

Director/Head Coach

The Better Parents, Better Kids Program

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