Better Parents, Better Kids Weekly Newsletter Issue #1

Note From Tanis Nicole Wright

Welcome To Your Better Parents, Better Kids Newsletter Issue #1!!!

I'm Tanis Nicole Wright, Director/Head Coach of the Better Parents, Better Kids Parenting Program (http://www.betterparentsbetterkids.com) and co-writer of our Parenting E-book Better Parents, Better Kids http://www.betterparentsbetterkids.com/info

For your very first issue, Dr. Robby (Director of the Centre for Life Management/LMC Relationship Centre and Founder of the Better Parents,

Better Kids Program), the Better Parents, Better Kids Team and myself decided to start a 10 part series, called " 10 Instant Ways To Become a Better Parent."

For anyone who may read Search Warp articles, this title may sound familiar, I did publish this article with them a while back and the feedback we got back is that it was a very informative and helpful article, but just a little long.

So what we decided to do was split the article into 10 parts, and for each of the next 10 newsletters we will showcase one of the 10 ways to instantly become a better parent, plus we will also include some bonus exercises or assignments just for you.

So let's get the show on the road.

10 Instant Ways to Become a Better Parent - Part One

Most articles, books and websites on parenting tips and advice focus on how to change your children or your children's behavior, however, there are not too many sources of information that focus on the parent.

However, the true key to happy and healthy children as well as successful parenting is actually through the parent, not the children. To further explain, the following is the first of 10 Instant Ways to Become a Better Parent.

Take Care of Yourself: It is important to take care of yourself in order to be a really good parent for several reasons.

First is that in order to have energy to take care and spend time with your children you need to be healthy and functional.

The second reason is that when your children are young they are like sponges; they absorb everything they see, hear and feel in their environment.

So if you are stressed and fatigued because you are not physically taking care of yourself, or if you are angry, frustrated or resentful because you are doing things that you think you should do versus what you feel or desire to do, your children are being exposed to and absorbing all of these toxic emotions.

As well because you spend probably the most time with your children as they are growing up by default you are their earliest role model so how you treat yourself is how they are going to grow up treating themselves.

Assignment

So you are probably thinking, "Sure, just take care of myself - easier said then done - my children need me, I have responsibilities and I have no time, how on earth can I possibly take care of myself?

Well, your assignment is that we want you to try out a little experiment.

When you wake up tomorrow, decide to take care of yourself first, before taking care of anyone else, whether that is having a little alone time before everyone gets up, eating breakfast first, having your spouse get the kids ready for school while you sleep in a little bit longer, whatever taking care of yourself may be, without feeling guilty or worrying about it.

The important thing is just make the decision, allow yourself to take care of yourself and trust that your decision will be in yours and everyone else's highest and best interest.

Next, observe how your day goes. Did it go smoother? Were you less stressed because you had more energy? Were you in less resistance to your current reality because you were more ready for your day?

If you were successful, try it again another day, and increase the frequency of taking care of yourself first as you get more and more comfortable with it.

If you are struggling with taking care of yourself first, remember to make a decision or commitment to taking care of yourself, remember to allow yourself to take care of yourself and last but not least remind yourself that your decision will be in yours and everyone else's highest and best interest.

In our next newsletter, we will be talking about Part Two of the Top 10 Instant Ways To Become a Better Parent.

One Last Note From Tanis

We will be starting a Question & Answer Column for our Newsletter called "Ask Tanis" where you can send in any parenting questions and I'll be happy to answer your questions as part of our Newsletter.

Please send in your questions to "Ask Tanis" at This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it

Best Wishes,

Tanis Nicole Wright

Director/Head Coach

The Better Parents, Better Kids Program

http://www.betterparentsbetterkids.com

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